Category Archives: Musings

Don’t Quit Your Daydreams

The funny thing about starting a new pursuit in life, is where to begin. You know you can’t go back. You feel awkward in the place you are standing. Yet still, you have no clear indication of where you are heading…you just know that you are heading somewhere, someplace; new. I read a quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson that in nutshell says, “Whatever you do you need courage…” There is more to the quote but bottom line: nothing gets done without courage and you taking your first step.

The journey of life isn’t just about the destination but more about the motion, the movement, and no journey begins by standing still.

Of course we can let others paralyze us with fears, imagined or perceived. We can allow their critical eyes to cast doubts on our own convictions. I have found that when other people tell you why you should not make waves, tell you how to follow your heart, condemn your desire to follow your dreams, it’s not because they are worried about the mistakes you’ll make. Everybody makes mistakes. They are actually voicing their own fears, misgivings and regrets for not doing the same; taking action, following their own dreams or convictions, or remaining in a place or place in their life, that they know they’ve outgrown or were never welcomed, in the first place.

For whatever reason, they found themselves in a rut; a comfortable, predictable rut and stayed there, and how dare you find the will, the courage to chase your dreams!  You can empathize, really. Maybe they wanted to be a ballerina but let someone tell them they didn’t have the body type for it. Maybe they wanted to start a business, but let someone tell them they didn’t have the education for it. Whatever happened to discourage their own attempt, they got caught off guard by the questioning of the individual or individuals that lacked the courage to do their own thing, and allowed those voices to dim the hope they nurtured for themselves. They might have got caught slipping, but you nor I have to.

Even with all that background noise, it’s never too late to start over, start fresh, turn a page or turn a corner. If the thought of chasing your dreams feels uncomfortable then good; at least it feels. It means you are not numb. Living a life without feelings isn’t living. Emotions can be a great motivator or dictator, whichever you give in to. It is okay to feel something: anger, sadness, anxiety, hope, love, understanding, compassion and yes, sometimes, fear. However, out of all the things you may find yourself feeling, the one emotion to look out for, the one feeling to stand up against, is hopelessness.

Once you start down a road that leads to hopelessness, then fear and doubt will want to tag along and those two will feed off of you until it becomes an incessant, consuming hunger. So how do you combat hopelessness in the midst of your journey?

If you have a passion in life, do it. If you don’t know where to begin, start with a book about the subject. Ask others that are following their passion. Strive for it. Don’t give up. Your critics will always have something to say, but it’s not what they say, it’s what they do. And if all they are doing is trying to discourage you from following your own path? They aint doing shit…just full of it.  Actions have and always will speak louder than words and will always say more about the person or people you surround yourself with.

So, put away anything that does not nourish your soul, or your dreams. Surround yourself with positive inspiration and positive people. You will find that you can be your own worse critic so why be bothered with any other critical assed folks? Instead,  feed your heart and mind with creativity…and whatever you do: don’t quit your daydreams.

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Believe it or not…I’m still here: First letter to the Sexies January 2018

 

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Hello out there!

I want to wish everyone a Happy Belated New Year! A lot has transpired in my life that has been life driven so writing had been placed on a shelf temporarily. My family has experienced the gamut of life: New births, deaths, relocating, new jobs, new home…and through it all, I kept telling myself I will get back to it! I keep ideas on tap for new stories, and I plug away—just not consistently—here and there on established works in progress. I’ve finally gotten a hold of my time management; with that, comes a few changes. I have two blogs that are now going to be condensed into one. I’ll actually be working on moving the content from there, to here, today. Although not a resolution in the New Year’s traditional sense, I have resolved to be fiscally responsible this year. So paying for but not using a blog isn’t a justifiable expense! I can easily post the stories I have on that blog here as well, with a few creative layout changes and blog upgrades!

Speaking of blogging, it’s my hope to post regularly on my blog if only to stay present.

So far, no new books in the Mackenzie Dominants Series since book three, but there are more stories to be told for that world. Your continued patience is everything to me. I accept that I need to put more umpf in the getting material done arena! I am also still desiring to write a paranormal story/series and have a few outlines in my idea pile to peruse. Who knows: 2018 might be the year for those!

Thanks for hanging in there with me and I’ll catcha later!

Simply,

Mimi

My Word When Was The Last Time I posted a blog?

Hello Sexies!

I know, it’s been a while. Last blog post was September 2015? Crazy! Then again, it’s Mimi, crazy is as crazy does! I haven’t been idle. I haven’t been as productive as I had hoped either. I tore up (and by tore up, I mean, deleted this is the digital age…) my book four for the Mackenzie Dominants. I hated it. I went and got some advice on the direction then began anew. MAYBE I’ll get it finished this year!

I am not a fast writer!

Don’t get me wrong ideas are always on and poppin’ in this cranium. Yet balancing my responsibilities, my writing, my mental health, my physical health, my relationships, my Mimi time…one of these days, I’ll have that AHA! moment. I aint had it yet tho’… 😀

Now during this lull in my writing I’ve gotten a few other dreams realized. Hubby and I bought a mobile home. We got us an extended single wide in a stellar community in Norton Shores, Michigan. I absolutely love it. Our journey to home ownership wasn’t a quick nor easy one but we finally made it! We are loving the new digs, especially for our son. We can now get him out of the house more (perfect sized yard) and into the fresh air. My son is autistic and prefers solitary activities that don’t involve many social situations. It’s a thrill to see him go outside and explore his surroundings. He loves having a larger room, and his own bathroom! I think we all like having an extra bathroom! No more knocks on the door or setting the timer for the allotted shower times!

Of course there are all the things that come with home ownership versus renting like mowing your own yard. We had to buy a lawnmower! 😀 Of course the fun part is the yard wars. Man I have some neighbors that go beyond the Pink Flamingo thang! I’ve pitched my hat into the ring right along with them. I’ve started small, just a few hanging plants and solar lights, but I have plans… yeah you should be afraid!

So life is happening in between the stories. I am still role playing, collaborating with friends on some stories that we have in various online spots. When time permits Nikki Green and I add to the Gangstah Love Blog, and as always I keep outlining and plugging away on Mackenzie Dominants and my indie projects.

In short life is being kind to me. Until next time Sexies, enjoy your journey. Take time out to pursue your dreams, love your love ones while they are still with you, and don’t forget to love yourself.

Simply,

Mimi

 

 

 

 

And The Journey Continues

1laptop2_smallI’ve come to realize that making choices that might affect others isn’t always an easy thing. Especially if it’s not a popular decision. When you set out to accomplish a dream or goal, hard choices will come into play. You may lose a few folks along the way, bruise your knees when you stumble but ultimately, there has to be a determining factor that propels you forward. That makes you get up, dust off and start the journey all over again.

Part of that process is knowing your own limitations. Being able to admit that your plate is full and refuse the second or third helpings. Sometimes you even have to pass on the dessert. It’s not that you don’t enjoy the cook’s cuisine, but knowing when to say I’ve had enough, I’m full or no thank you can sometimes take finesse. Even so there are bound to be a few offended chefs.

First rule of hard decisions is accepting you cannot and will not please everybody. That will derail your determination before you even leave the station.

I use these analogies to say that what you (or I) may value and place the highest priority on isn’t necessarily placed in the highest regard for others. And when you have to say no, take a step back, lighten your load, it isn’t always understood but it’s still a necessary, next step in the going forward process; unequivocally so when you have allowed all the extras to get you off track in the first place! It’s not enough to step on the scale of life and see the extra pounds and and do nothing but complain about it!  You (I) have to be willing to do the extra work to shed the weights (or cares of this world) to get back into form. If that means less television, less partying, even less hours on a job to pursue your dreams, it takes the courage to know when to say when. To decline invitations when you have an outline to work on. To pass on starting that new fall television show to work on your writing. To even let go of distractions and even those pastimes that you enjoy, to refocus on what made you want to write in the first the place.

Despite it all, hard choices are not impossible ones. Difficult to make at times but you can do it. Unpopular decisions may make you feel rotten but they are not unbearable. When you think of the outcome, of the rewards of being diligent, you can survive being unpopular. You either make the choice to work for your dreams or you sit back and live with the regrets of not trying.

When that journey becomes a solitary one, remind yourself that you signed up for it. Call to remembrance the joy the journey brought you. Understand that your dreams are non negotiable. Give yourself permission to accomplish your goals.

 

 

First Letter to the Sexies of the New Year

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Happy New Year!

My hopes for you is that the new year has greeted you kindly! As for me, my latest book in the Mackenzie Dominants Series, Tempting Temptation is due for release January 13th, 2015 on Bookstrand.com. I am very excited about that. Many changes have happened, none that I would bore you with; some good, some sad, all a part of the journey we call life. I’m grateful to see another new year!

I’ve migrated over to Google Plus so if you happen to be that way add me to your circles! I am still on Facebook and Twitter respectively. I have a few self projects in the works but mostly I am allowing the batteries to recharge. Of course I am getting in a little bit of reading here and there and still roleplaying {collaborating with friends} in my online writing group as time permits.

All in all the year 2014 ended and the new one has begun. I wouldn’t take anything for my journey thus far!

Simply,

Mimi

Rolling with the Punches

boxing-glovesThe hump day push through is here. After a rainy start to the week, literally and figuratively, I got myself up and at ’em. It’s been a rainy couple of weeks for my household. We lost a beloved pet to illness. During that heartbreaking time a long standing friendship came to an end. I was on an emotional roller coaster for a time.

Yet I was always told that in order to receive something new you have to let go of the old. Whether that is old habits, old ways of thinking, old draining relationships, whatever that old stuff is, it’s in the way. If your hands are full there is no room to pick up anything else anyways. So in the spirit of moving forward, I started mapping out my next course of action; key word—action.

Stress can paralyze you into inactivity if it takes root. It will drain your energy and stifle your creativity. So I encourage you to get in some self time when you can. Even ten minutes alone in a quiet space can be rejuvenating. Life throws enough punches so learning how to roll with them, aka, cope with your stress, problems and dilemmas (in a POSITIVE WAY) can keep you moving forward towards your goals and dreams.

It’s even more crucial if you suffer from any anxiety disorders or mental illness. I can say that because I am manic depressive (Bi-polar) and still learning how to deal with my own triggers. So rolling with the punches is a daily walk for me! 🙂

Above all, loving yourself, forgiving yourself, taking care of yourself physically, mentally and spiritually will allow you to care for those around you. It doesn’t hurt to have a compassionate heart either. I had someone tell me that they were no longer going to commiserate with me. It would take compassion first and foremost to have the ability to commiserate with anyone, so when a person is lacking in compassion, they probably can’t feel what anyone—outside of themselves—feels or understands anyway. The human condition encompasses a myriad of misery all by itself and who wants to extol the virtues of past hurts, old wounds and sufferings of any sort?

Let me share a word of caution: Living among the weeds of past hurts, wrongs and misdeeds will choke out the bright future you have ahead of yourself. You can uproot yourself and move a million miles away but if the weeds are growing on the inside, you will still find yourself an overrun garden, stunted and not growing! You have to pluck the weeds out of your heart first—just my thoughts for what it’s worth.

I’d like to think that encouraging another out of compassion would help not only the person who is down but also the person doing the encouraging. I say that to say when I find myself in a downward spiral what helps me is to help others. In whatever way I can; a kind word, a card, a prayer, listening to them when they need to vent. It’s not always the big things that make a person’s day. A hug is a miracle we can all share. So is a smile.

So if life is trying to go 12 rounds with you, try to roll with the punches. Heck bob and weave! Problems rarely remain and what was a mountain one day can be a mole hill the next. Life lessons are learned with each blow. Where you once stood still and absorbed the hit,s as you mature, you learn how to duck them, and get in a few good shots of your own! You learn how to develop some fancy footwork and keep moving. And when that bell rings, in the end, the technical merits will add up and life will have to declare you the winner!

 

Just…wow, can I please get off the merry-go-round?

merry-go-round-hiDear Sexies:

I’ve spent the last two weeks or so floundering. Ever just have brain overload? Yup that was the situation this chick found herself in. Just like this merry-go-round, I was going in circles. Re reading passages I’d written, changing them, erasing them, hitting back and undo more times than I cared to count. And got nowhere fast.

What is surprising is not the lack of ideas for the stories I want to write, but the lack of execution. Something happens between the images I see in my mind and the translation of said images into words. Took me two weeks to decide that the titles I laid out for a WIP series were all wrong. Now those titles belong to something else. It took me two weeks to sketch out a rough semblance of a scene for book three in my Mackenzie Dominants series. Only to decide, I don’t like it.

I am my own worse critic, and trust me when I say this if Mimi don’t like what she writes, you won’t either. Of course my round the bend experience puts me even further behind my self imposed deadline. I set these deadlines/goals to keep me focused and on track. Then I invariably get off track and so begins my merry-go-round experience(s). Just..wow. The process by which I come up with my work isn’t glamorous or cool. I doubt it will make for any entertaining anecdote to recount at a book convention either. If I can say anything remotely wise, I would have to say it’s by process that we grow, stretch and reach past our limits. We get beyond self and fear and say, “I got this.” And then we just go and do the damn thang.

I would much prefer to keep the angst on the pages of my books; and I use to love merry-go-rounds too. However I hopped off that bitch two days ago. Mimi don’t have time to ride the horsies. She has books that need to be finished!

Until next letter,

Simply Mimi